Tuesday, June 24, 2008


In a moment of self-loathing about all the things that need to get done for the wedding, I made the very bad mistake of opening my to-do list on theknot yesterday. Not only does it include about 100 things that I am behind on (groom's attire, floral arrangements, officiant, etc) but this month they would like me to "Start taking better care of yourself (eat right, exercise) so you look and feel great on your wedding day." I mean, yes, it's a good idea to eat right and exercise. But I kind of resent them telling me to do that for my wedding day. Like I have the rest of my life to turn in to a pig, but for my wedding, I should look skinny and pretty. So that's rant number one.

Rant number two is that I'm really sick of people acting like I'm being a control freak about the wedding. Yes, I am normally a planner. I like to plan things. And I'm not that good a group projects. But in this case, a wedding is a huge event. And I'm doing everything 100% by myself. Not because I want to, but because every time I try to delegate something to someone else (primarily my parents who actually live where the wedding is being held), they ignore my question for months until they finally get sick of me asking. But then their response is surrounded by this whole "She's always been like this...so controlling. I think this might be her inner bridezilla coming out." I think they think it's funny. But I'm a little bit over my parents calling me the b-word that might as well be the other b-word.

There is something so wrong with women getting forced into this role. Everyone expects the wedding to be big and fun, nobody wants to help with the planning stages. So essentially they expect you to show up after months of planning in secret so as not to disturb anyone or look like a bridezilla, and look like the skinny, hot, princess bride for a day. It's not right.


Blind, Irish Pirate said...

Freaking amen.

lazynybride said...

oh man, i just left a delegate suggestion on a more recent post before i read this. so sorry.

i'm a planner too and also feel like people expect you to turn into a bridezilla when all you want is for things to turn out like you planned.

i hope things get easier!

ps, i'm afraid of the knot.

un-bride said...


Rachel said...

I know exactly what you mean. Reading your backstory today after following for a while on google reader...